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| Are mothers satisfied with their choice to tandem nurse? | # moms |
| Moms who were happy with tandem nursing and would do it again. | 131 |
| Moms who felt that tandem nursing was a good choice for the circumstances, but would choose to space any additional children farther apart. | 10 |
| Moms who felt that tandem nursing was a good choice for the circumstances, but would prefer not to tandem nurse again. | 4 |
| Moms who felt that tandem nursing was not a good choice for them. | 2 |
Do you regret your decision? Would you do it again?
| 148 | Not at all - it's proved to be extremely useful during my
youngest's short life so far.
- When she was 3 days old I had to have a radioactive scan on my lungs and wasn't allowed to feed her for 12hrs afterwards - luckily I had the chance to express milk beforehand so she wouldn't need any formula and thanks to my toddler nursing as well as her, my milk was already coming in in full force by that point so I was able to express more than enough for the period after the scan. - When I had mastitis thanks to a blocked duct my toddler was able to keep nursing much more efficiently than my little 2 week old and therefore I could keep the breast empty really easily. - when my toddler decided she was going to stop eating when her sister was a week old (a control issue I think, thanks to me disappearing off to hospital when I needed the scan), I was reassured that she was receiving plenty of fluids and nutrition from my milk I would do it again, but I don't want to be nursing three so won't try for the next baby until my oldest has weaned. |
| 147 | No, I don't regret it. I think it helped my older daughter trasition to being a big sister. Yes, if I were to have another baby while my youngest is still nursing I would certainly tandem nurse again. |
| 146 | NO! I feel that continuing to nurse the older baby was just what was needed to ease the transition of a sibling at such a young age. I have done it twice and would definitly do it again. |
| 145 | No. I am tandem nursing my fourth pair. |
| 144 | Sometimes. He's 8-months now and some days seems to want to
nurse constantly. I finally get to put him down for a nap and
she comes at me, begging to nurse. If they had their way, I'd
sit on the couch all day.
Also, right before my period, my breasts are sometimes tender. My three year old sucks very hard and it can be painful. Yes, I would do it again. Sometimes, especially late at night, we three snuggle and just enjoy being together. |
| 143 | No, I don't regret my decision. I LOVED nursing in my pregnancy and tandem nursing afterwards. Yes, I would very much do it again, and may if my twins don't wean before I get pregnant with our last. |
| 142 | Yes. I think it would've been easier on my first daughter to have weaned during pregnancy (when she was almost never nursing). Now she has limits on nursing (I have HAD to because it was too hard) and she sees that baby nursing all the time when she can't. I think she must pick up on my ambivalence about nursing her--I used to nurse her with joy, now I'm always putting her off and not looking foward to it (sometimes even dreading it). That's CAN'T make her feel good... |
| 141 | I do not regret my decision, I really cherish the memories of the experience and am glad we did it, but no, I would not choose to do it again. I found having the kids so close together (27 months) draining, in more ways than just breastfeeding. If I had decided to have a 4th child, I would have waited until my 3rd was at least 2 1/2-3 y/o before getting pregnant, although he did nurse till he was almost 5 so I would have ended up tandem nursing again.... |
| 140 | Nope, I don't regret it. Sometimes it's taxing, because I don't feel comfortable nursing both children at once and my son often asks to nurse when the baby is nursing or tries to push her away so that he can have a turn. In some ways, I'm more uncomfortable nursing a 2 1/2 year old than tandem nursing, though both are so counter-culture. Would I do it again? We'll see. I don't intend to but I'm not opposed to the idea, either. |
| 139 | No regrets at all. I would definitely do it again! |
| 138 | No, I am not sure how it will go to wean my older nursling, and let the baby continue, but we will cross that bridge when it is time. I did let the newborn go first in the begining to get the the most benefit from the colostrum. I would do it again. It helped me to not have morning sickness during my pregnancy, and I know it is much better for my 16 month old. |
| 137 | No regrets, although it was difficult at times, especially night time when both were nursing frequently. I would do it again. |
| 136 | I can't lie... Sometimes yes! But then when I want everyone
to go to sleep at the same time or slow down after a busy day
or get more than 5 hours of sleep a night. It's the BEST then!
I would do it again! And am actually worried about what I'll do when we decide to have another baby. As of now no one is acting even close to weaning. To bad God didn't make me with 3 of them! |
| 135 | No, I don't regret the decision I made. I know I made the right one for us, and yes I would do it again. |
| 134 | No regrets at all. I thouroughly enjoyed tandem nursing. I did not find it difficult. I am doing it again with #3 and #4 now. |
| 133 | I did do it again (3 years for #1 and #2 and 6 months for #2 and #3). It was challenging at times but now that's behind me, I think it was a helpful parenting tool. |
| 132 | It's been hard, but I don't regret it. My son did step up his nursing a lot when the baby was born. But I still enjoy the nursing sessions. They just take too long! |
| 131 | No, it was difficult but so worth it. I am actually doing it again. I just found out I'm pregnant and my 31mo old son is still nursing. |
| 130 | I would tandem again, if needed. |
| 129 | I do not regret my decision to tandem nurse at all, though that doesn't mean it's easy all of the time! There used to be a Tandem Board on a chat site for women and it really helped prepare me for some of the challenges that can arise in embarking on nursing a toddler and newborn! Our toddler though responds very well to his new baby brother, way better than we ever expected, and I think that continuing to nurse him has helped this a lot, because he still needs to nurse, and his new baby brother doesn't prevent this--it's something they often get to do together. So I definately am glad we are doing it! |
| 128 | I don't regret it at all, and I would do it again in a heartbeat. I am glad I was able to continue to nurse my older child, and I think that it added to the relationship between my children -- tandem nursing was a tangible proof that there's enough of Mommy for both. |
| 127 | No, I do not regret my decision because the nursing relationship is very important to my high need daughter. It is not always easy to tandem nurse but I would do it again in a heartbeat because it is what my children need and because there are also some very beautiful and tender moments when my daughter holds my son's hand while they are both nursing. |
| 126 | No, although my youngest is just about a month old, so we have just begun, really. |
| 125 | Sometimes, but most of the time I am happy that I have continued this special relationship with my older son. |
| 124 | No. She definitely wasn't ready to wean. If I could do it again I might have waited until she was a little older to get pregnant in the first place. She did have a hard time with the transition, but I think that would have been true regardless of whether she was nursing or not. |
| 123 | No. My older nursing didn't wean until a few months after her 3rd birthday. I feel that by continuing to nurse her we kept that special bond going, it helped her adjust to having a new sibling, I wanted to let he be a "baby" as long as she needed to be. Yes I would definitely do it again. In fact I looked forward to it during my 3rd pregnancy, but my 2 1/2 year old daughter weaned while I was pregnant. |
| 122 | No regrets. My new baby weighed 12 pounds at birth and weighed 20 lbs. at two months so I never worried about her not receiving enough milk. I felt my older child who was fussy and difficult really needed the physical closeness. Their health seems above average and at ages 17 and 18 1/2 now, they have both graduated as valedictorians of their respective classes. I am now 39 with a little one (nursing) and am pregnant with #4. I am planning on tandem nursing again. |
| 121 | Not really. Sometimes I wish I could just be nursing one child, and other times, it just doesn't bother me. I would probably do it again because of the benefits that I see. |
| 120 | Sometimes. I found it hard to nurse both children at the same time. Not physcally, but more emotionally. I didn't like the way I felt. I would do this again, but I will nurse each child one at a time. |
| 119 | No - I don't think so. I am not keen on nursing them together
as I find it tricky to get them both latched on well and my
toddler is not so gentle. I have done it several times though
as seemed the only way not to have a scene... these are the
only times I regret the decision - and actually even then it
is good to be able to oblige and avert the scene. For the most
part I am sure it has helped my toddler accept the baby and
still feel treasured herself. We have our special times at wake-up
and bedtime which are just us - and generally my toddler is
quite keen for me to nurse the baby as she realises this will
stop the baby from crying!! If I had my time over I think I would follow the same course of action! |
| 118 | Not with my son. I had a good milk supply throughout my pregnancy and he was a tremendous help when I had more milk than the newborn needed. I wanted to tandem nurse with my second and third but it didn't work out. I go between feeling content with it and feeling guilty. I would be glad to tandem nurse this one if we have anymore children. |
| 117 | I do not regret that decision at all. I would definitely do it again. |
| 116 | No, I don't regret my decision. Tandem nursing has brought us through a difficult change in our family, and has created some of the sweetest moments of my mothering experience. I would do it again in a heartbeat. |
| 115 | No. I mean it was/is hard at times, but I think it is an amazing experience. I have done it again. LOL |
| 114 | No. I would tandem again (I am doing it for the 3rd time now). It helps the older child with jealousy issues too. |
| 113 | I think I would do it again, but I had a VERY hard time during the newborn phase, which makes weaning during pregnancy seem like a reasonable alternative to me. When my baby was a newborn, I could not nurse them simultaneously, but both children needed a tremendous amount of nursing, for their individual reasons (one was a newborn, one was very jealous and felt threatened). I developed a near repulsion to nursing my toddler, and felt deeply guilty for my feelings. However, the nursing itself did not cause the problem, and possibly gave me a tool to get through it. So ultimately, I would do it again, but I would have no illusions that it would be easy. |
| 112 | No regrets. I still know it is and was best. I honored his needs and followed my heart. |
| 111 | No, my little boy loves his num nums. And so does his sissy who is learning to say num nums too. I would do it again and again. |
| 110 | No, I don't regret it. I would do it again in a second. |
| 109 | No I don't regret it and yes I'd do it again in a heartbeat. IF I were to get pregnant and my child wanted to keep nursing during the pregnancy, that is (I wouldn't try and "force" them to keep nursing during pregnancy). |
| 108 | While I do not regret my decision, I was forced to give up
tandem nursing. Shortly into my pregnancy, I began to suffer
from hyperemesis (constantly vomiting). Although I had suffered
this with my pregnancies when I was carrying boy babies, this
was different. I could keep NOTHING down. Over a period of a
few weeks, I began to have suicidal thoughts and an inability
to concentrate even for a few minutes (I got into a car accident
due to this condition). I told my OB/Gyn all this when I went
to my first prenatal appointment. She immediatly did a vaginal
ultrsound and found out that I was carrying twins. This combined
with my lack of ability to intake adequeate nutrition and a
breastfeeding toddler, my body chemistry, and mental state were
compromised. A combination of extremely strong medications for the vomiting and an immediate stop to nursing were suggested. I initially tried just the meds, but the only thing that "restored my sanity" was to stop nursing also. It was the worst thing I ever had to do. Ultimately I had to leave home for 3 days and nights, because my son was so adamant about nursing. |
| 106 | No, I would do it again because it helped my older son to don't feel jealous of the baby coming. |
| 105 | I do not at all regret my decision to nurse through pregnancy and then tandem nurse, but I would not plan to do it again, as it has been extremely challenging. Next time, I'd prefer to wait until my nursling was self-weaned before becoming pregnant again. However if I found myself pregnant again while still nursing, I would do exactly what I did this time, because, despite the challenges, I feel that it was the best decision I could have made for all of us under the circumstances. |
| 104 | No. I want to adopt a baby and nurse it too. |
| 103 | No I never regretted it. |
| 102 | No. It worked for me during my pregnancy. He clearly loves it/needs it and has no plan on giving it up anytime soon. It was really hard (i.e. painful sore nipples/dry nursing) to continue nursing throughout my pregnancy but he was too young to wean at the time. So yes - I would do it again. |
| 101 | I do not regret my decision. I would definitely do it again. My boys will wean when they are ready. It may get tiresome at times, but it is so worth it, to know that my babies are getting the best, and I am providing them with it. I can't explain the feeling that gives me. |
| 100 | Absolutely no regrets. Absolutely would do it again! |
| 99 | No, so far the past few months have had their ups and downs, but I don't regret it. I just think of my older son curled up in my lap and know that I have done the right thing. I also think of all those moms who can't calm their children as easily and lovingly as I can, and know I've done the right thing. I would certainly do it again. |
| 98 | I do not regret my decision in any way. If I had it to do all over again I wouldn't change a thing. Although nursing her through my pregnancy was very difficult due to the discomfort I felt. I am so proud of myself for making it through and proud that I could allow my daughter to wean on her own schedule. I feel she is better for it. |
| 97 | No -- it was one of the most challenging, and one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. My nurslings are all still nursing, they are 4, 2 and 2. |
| 96 | No, I'm glad I did it, especially since our daughter died when she was 6 months old. I think it was good for the two of them to be that close for a short time. However, I did resent my older child nursing at times while I was pregnant (sore nipples, etc.), and I think that because of that I won't tandem nurse again. I've gotten pregnant while nursing twice since then, and have weaned the older child before the baby was born both times. But both of them were over a year old, so I felt like I wasn't totally cheating them when I weaned them. |
| 95 | No. I am glad that my son is still nursing. It's a great comfort to him and a special bonding time for us. |
| 94 | No, I don't regret it. I feel like it would have been difficult
for her to wean. I'm not sure that I would do it again. She was only nursing once or twice a day before he was born, but afterwards she wanted to nurse more than the baby. She is now very attached to nursing, and I think she would have weaned more easily then. Now I suspect that she might wean after the baby! |
| 93 | No. My eldest son was a big help when my milk came in. I also didn't want to have the same problems that I had when I first started nursing (sore, cracked nipples). Also, he is learning to be very gentle with his little brother as they nurse together. |
| 92 | It was a great decision. I think it helped my daughter feel secure with a new person in the picture. I don't plan to have more children, but if I did, I'd do it again. |
| 91 | I don't regret any of it. I had a hard time with her wanting to nurse at the end of my pregnancy because I felt so "touched out" all the time and it really did hurt. I was glad we could have a little hiatis and have her still be able to nurse when she wanted to after her brother came. I think it really gave her some closness with him and also let her know that she was still my baby too. |
| 90 | No, I don't regret it at all. I would definitely do it again. |
| 89 | No way. It has its moments but all in all it is a beautiful experience and not only would I consider doing it again but I would almost like to plan it that way. |
| 88 | Don't regret my decision and I'd do it again. |
| 87 | No, I don't regret it, although there are times when I wish everyone would get off me! I do find that her nursing can be very irritating. |
| 86 | I do not regret tandem nursing at all. The first time I became
pregnant, when my nursing daughter was 20 months old, I made
it to 3.5 months in my pregnancy-- then the baby died from a
genetic problem. If I had weaned my daughter when I found out
I was pregnant, not only would I have lost the new baby, but
I would have also lost my nursing relationship with my daughter.
Nursing my daughter after the loss of the baby was a big comfort
for both me and my daughter. The closeness and love between
my daughter and me as she nursed helped me to heal from my loss
like nothing else could. And being able to nurse helped my then
two year old through the period when all Mommy did was sit and
cry. This time, my tandem nursing experience has been wonderful! True, there have been times when I have wanted to scream "everyone get off me!", but when my daughter reaches over and hold my son's hand while they're nursing, or my son smiles at my daughter as they're nursing, my heart about bursts with love. (And yes, my daughter is almost 5 years old and *still* nursing!) I would absolutely tandem nurse again. |
| 85 | Not in the first instance. It went well with my first son
who nursed until he was 4 and son #2 was 1.5 yrs. At the time
#1 son weaned I was pregnant with son #3. Yes in the second case. I tandem nursed my second son from when he was 2 and my third son was newborn. The second son developed jealousies over nursing. He became belligerent about nursing and what was once a loving, special time could become stressful and negative. I would have tried to encourage weaning earlier in his case. Unfortunately I had to dramatically wean both son #2 and #3 when I started chemotherapy. |
| 84 | No, and I would do it again, but after about a year I weaned my older child because it was getting too much for me. |
| 83 | YES somedays I do. I really have a hard time with it, I nursed
my eldest son for 3years and 10 months. Then I went on to have
two in 18 months, 11 years later. During pregnancy I had sore
nipples from the day I got pregnant till the day I gave birth.
If I had of known how I was going to feel about nursing two
it would of been better to wean the older baby. I felt he was
to young to wean, I had no idea how hard the sensory overload
was going to be. They have been tandem nursing for 4 1/2months
now, I feel I cannot wean the older one he is just not ready,
but I do not enjoy nursing him, which I realy do not like about
myself because I totally believe in breast is best. I am really struggling with trying to be the best mother I can be but my relationship with the older one is becoming impared, I really wish I had a friend to talk to. SUPPORT is mandatory if you want to tandem. I think in my mind I can handle it, then as soon as I am doing it I start freaking out mentally. I am a survior of childhood sexual abuse, I think this is the cause of the objectionable sensory overload I feel, but I cannot wean him just yet. I just have to keep praying for strengh and loving motherly feelings to get me through till he is ready to let go. Until then I have to count to ten as a nursing session with him. Would I do it agian? It is what is best and right - I hope I do not have to but I would. |
| 82 | The only thing I would do differently would be to space the kids a bit further apart so my first could have had more solo time. I wouldn't change the decision to tandem nurse, no question. It just feels right. |
| 81 | No, I do not regret it. I have tandem-nursed 3 times now and those that were tandemed are still close to each other. |
| 80 | No, I don't, because it is a special comforting bond I have with my kids. Yes, I would do it again. |
| 79 | Nursing during pregnancy was difficult but I absolutely do not regret my decision. My kids are very close and I credit tandem nursing with a lot of that. I would do it again if presented with the situation but I because of other issues I would not prefer to have two kids spaced so closely together again, so it may not happen again. |
| 78 | I do not regret it, but it is hard at times. I wish that my toddler would nurse to sleep just at naptime and bedtime, but he wants to nurse all the time. Much more than he did before the baby came. Also, I feel a little sad that my daughter (6 weeks), isn't getting the "one on one" nursing sessions that I had with him. We do occasionally, but not often. He is a rough and tumble boy, and when he climbs on me he sometimes smashes her, so I am always monitoring and trying to keep her on, and he's doing acrobatics, yeah, its hard on Mommy sometimes. Then I see him stroking her while he nurses next to her, and it is so sweet. I have mixed feelings. But I still LOVE nursing him to sleep at might and for naps. I would do it again, and employ the techniques I am learning earlier on. |
| 77 | No- I love the closeness it promotes between siblings. I am currently tandem nursing for a second time - actually I never stopped - my oldest daughter weaned at age 5 1/2 when I became pregnant for my third child - I nursed my son through the pregnancy and now he and his brother are nursing together. |
| 76 | No, not at all. |
| 75 | Not at all. I shall do and recommend it any time unless there are compelling reasons otherwise. |
| 74 | While I think it is hard work to nurse two children, I feel committed to breastfeeding, and would do it again, despite the fact that sometimes I question myself if I should have weaned him during pregnancy. |
| 73 | NO, right now I'm thrilled he's still nursing. He's 28 mos old and he obviously needs the comfort aspects. It's so easy to nurse him to sleep (but he'll also go to sleep for the babysitter or granma). I have always had supply problems, too, so I hope tandem feeding will increase my supply. [Note: Mom is 39 weeks pregnant] |
| 72 | No, and I would do it again in a second. |
| 71 | I do not regret my decision and I am currently still doing it, and yes I would do it again. |
| 70 | Nope, no regrets at all. I would and will do it again. I loved it and it was really important for all of us. |
| 69 | No regrets. I would absolutely do it again. |
| 68 | No I don't, though I haven't actually tandem nursed YET. I am currently still pregnant with my twins. |
| 67 | No regrets! It was just what was best for all of us. Yes, I would do it again. |
| 66 | No!!! I know the advantages of breastmilk and wouldn't want to wean a toddler before they are ready to stop. Yes, I would do it again. |
| 65 | No, I would do the same again. I did have a rough pregnancy, complicated with gallstone attacks and continual 1lb/week weight loss. However, my baby was 8lbs, 4oz and that was after induction 2 weeks early. She obviously didn't "suffer" from my DS's nursing. ;) |
| 64 | I don't regret the decision. I put my toddler on first for the 'lemonade' milk, and my newborn on later. She put on weight incredibly quickly, and slept much of her days. I put the rest of my milk in the freezer. It was hard though. Juggling baby and toddler, establishing expectations of when the toddler was 'on' or 'off', were both hard - probably not unlike breastfeeding twins. It was lovely watching my aggressive boy toddler melt on the breast and touch his little sister with such tenderness. I had planned to do it again with my third, but had severe hyperemesis - I didn't feel like breastfeeding when I couldn't even drink water without vomiting - so I weaned my 'nearly 3 yo'. When the baby was born she'd forgotten. If faced with the same situation I would do it again, but I would prefer to extend the gap between pregnancies rather than do it again. |
| 63 | Not at all. I would do it again in a heartbeat. |
| 62 | I regret that I wasn't more aware of my feelings during pregnancy to have gently weaned her months before delivery. I was hoping that the intense feelings of not wanting to nurse her would get less after the baby was born but they didn't. I was feeling overwhelmed and had to do some fast weaning with lots of love. The nursing periods were already greatly reduced to four times a day 20 sec. each. My mood improved a lot so in the long run she doesn't have a mommy that resented her. I let her know in as many ways as possible that mommy's love doesn't change. Still ongoing. I guess you can say I've learned to nurse her without having to nurse her - but it was a hard time for both of us. Knowing now how I reacted, I would rather wait until our latest addition is weaned. |
| 61 | I wouldn't say I regret my decision, but if I had to do it again, I might have waited on the second baby until my older child had either weaned or understood "waiting" a bit better. I have found it difficult at times to nurse both children and the first few weeks were very very difficult! I had more than one emotional breakdown until I figured out how I could work it all togther (having them both in my bed, logisitics of nursing two etc). |
| 60 | There are days I certainly wish I wasn't doing this but it's just because the 3 yr old is so full on. Last time I tandem fed the gap was 4yrs 3 mths and the older child was cruisy and the baby really high need. This time the baby is cruisy and the toddler is intense and I'm finding it much harder (having 4 kids I'm sure adds to the dynamics of it all!) to meet the needs of both babies. My 3 yr old just wants to nurse all the time and still prefers to nurse to sleep. I did do it again and I'm glad I did and these are my last 2 children so it won't be an issue again!! |
| 59 | I don't regret my decision, but I don't think I would do it again. The "sensory overload" of two nursing and the older one ALWAYS wanting to nurse when the baby nurses is too much for me to handle. |
| 58 | Nope, don't regret it and having just found out we are expecting again, it looks like I will be doing it again : ) |
| 57 | No regrets. I plan on doing it again as I am currently pregnant with my third child and my second is only 10 months old. Is there another word for nursing three children? (Super-tandem?) LOL! |
| 56 | I do not regret my decision, and I would do it again in a heartbeat. |
| 55 | I don't regret it, though maybe I'll feel different as we do it longer. My daughter is only 8 days old now. |
| 54 | No regrets. I'll be doing it for the third time soon. |
| 53 | No, and yes, I am currently nursing my 21 month old and 13 weeks pregnant w/ #3 and will likely tandem-nurse again. |
| 52 | No, Baby 1 and 2 are still nurslings at 27 mos. and 13 mos. so there are no regrets. I would do it again in a heartbeat. |
| 51 | Never in a million years did I regret it, and I would do it again in a heartbeat. |
| 50 | No regrets, would do again. |
| 49 | Nope, not one bit! It was a great relief to me to be able to nurse through the pregnancy. I often felt my babies didn't get enough baby time, since they were so close in age. I have and would definitely do it again. |
| 48 | No, yes I would. I just miscarried my third but I was planning on tandem nursing. And my oldest still has not weaned. |
| 46 | I don't regret my chioce at all. Yes I would do it again. I would have breastfed Sophia right from the start had I had support and the knowledge. |
| 47 | It was hard, but I would certainly do it again in similar circumstances. |
| 45 | No. I would do it as often as needed. |
| 44 | I would do it again and I do not regret it. It is best for them. |
| 43 | It's only been 3 weeks, but so far I know my older daughter (27 months) needs the security so I don't regret it. It's definitely a challenge at night, but daytime has been fine. Too soon to know much yet. |
| 42 | No regrets. Would do it again. |
| 41 | No. Yes - but alas, my second has weaned at 20 weeks pregnant so I doubt it will happen again. She is 2 1/2 but just isn't interested any more. |
| 40 | No I do not regret nursing during this pregnancy. My nipples are very sore now, but I get a lot of rest. |
| 39 | It's not easy to do, but I would do it again. |
| 31 | Every so often, when things get crazy, I say, "Why oh why did I do this to myself?" but I would certainly do it again... although when number three comes along, I will definitely wean number one...very early into the pregnancy. |
| 38 | No regrets! Will do it again! |
| 37 | I do not think I would do it again simply because I plan on spacing my next children at least 3 yrs apart (these were 2 yrs 4 months), and so I would not demand but *very* strongly encourage my youngest to wean before I got pregnant again. |
| 36 | Not at all, I would do it again. |
| 35 | If either of them are still nursing when we conceive again and are still interested after the birth, then yes we will tandem nurse again. I love tandem nursing. |
| 34 | I never would regret giving my children what they needed. Of course I would do it again! |
| 33 | I don't regret my decision. Yes, I would do it again. |
| 32 | No, I don't regret it and I would do it again. But I didn't particularly enjoy it. |
| 30 | I will never regret my decision! Hana was sick and hospitalized with rotavirus shortly after she started nursing again. Breast milk was the only food gentle enough on her belly that she could keep down. I was so happy that she took to nursing again for health benefits and because she was still after all a baby herself still. I would do it again in a heart beat!! |
| 29 | No and Yes. |
| 28 | No, I am glad I tandem nurse, and I would definitely do it again. |
| 27 | I am not tandem nursing yet as my little one with in me has not yet been born but I will never force my son that is still nursing to wean.... so far no I don't regret and I do not in any way shape or form see myself regretting this decision. |
| 26 | No. I would most definitely do it again. |
| 25 | No, I do not regret my decision. Yes, I would do it again. |
| 24 | I only regret it during the rough times, but I come out still very committed to it -- I would definitely tandem nurse again (and probably will). |
| 23 | No regrets at all - best thing I could have done. Yes, I would do it again. |
| 22 | I think tandem nursing is great. |
| 21 | I regret that my husband and I weren't more careful about child spacing, but given the cards we were dealt I am grateful that I could tandem nurse, since it is an invaluable parenting tool in dealing with two babies. |
| 20 | I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. I actually thought I was the only one doing this. I never went to a La Leche meeting and no one else I knew was nursing. My doctor told me to wean when I got pregnant. I just never told them I was nursing still after that. I still remember how good it felt to have both children nursing peacefully. |
| 19 | No, I don't regret this. In fact I'm enjoying myself. Nursing still means a great deal to my daughter (who will turn 3 in a few months) and it has been an important way for her to bond and love her baby brother. |
| 18 | No, I don't regret it, and I would do it again. |
| 17 | Definitely not! And yes, I'd do it again, if I were having more children, or if I had it to do over. It's been a wonderful bonding experience for them as well as myself. |
| 16 | No-- sometimes I am very tired, but I know that I have a very close relationship with my daughters and that they are very close because of tandem nursing. |
| 15 | Never! I did it with all of my children! It helped ease the transition for the older one of being the "baby" to being big brother or sister - they shared the experience, and came to learn that babies can't eat hot dogs or apples - only milk. And it made it easier later to finally wean the older child. |
| 14 | I'm still very, very new to tandem nursing and working through a lot of issues but usually I don't regret it. My older daughter was not ready to wean on her own and I was extremely ill during my pregnancy (hyperemesis gravidarum) so it would have been extremely difficult to wean her gently. I have wondered some times if this was the right thing to do. Some times I'll be nursing my infant daughter and my older daughter will point mutely at my breast trying to hold back her tears or in so many other ways express how very much she wants to nurse and I feel helpless. I do nurse them together sometimes, but I usually find it miserably uncomfortable, also, my older daughter tends to be at her most desperate right when the baby is at her most desperate (imagine a screaming infant getting sprayed by an overactive let-down and a 3 year old having a meltdown on the floor). That scenario notwithstanding, I think continuing to nurse my older daughter was the best decision. If I have a third child and am still nursing my second, I will continue to nurse through the pregnancy. |
| 13 | I don't regret my decision, and would definitely do it again. |
| 12 | Absolutely not! I would do it again in a heartbeat. |
| 11 | I don't regret tandem nursing, not in the least. However, I don't think I would have my children so close together again - I would wait until the first had weaned before getting pregnant. But that has little to do with tandem nursing and more to do with the personality of my firstborn. |
| 10 | I do not regret it. I would absolutely do it again if I got pregnant while nursing. I would not consider weaning my child an option. I know several tandem-nursing moms who regret having their babies so close together, but they do not regret tandeming itself. I do not want to space my babies too far apart, and so I am faced with the possibility of nursing three eventually, but that is okay with me. I have a friend who is currently nursing three through a pregnancy; she expects to be nursing four in a few months. If she can do it, so can I, if need be. |
| 9 | Not at all... if the circumstances came up similarly I would do it again, no question. It just wasn't all that hard, really. |
| 8 | No regrets at all. I would definitely do it again, although I am only planning to have 2 children. |
| 7 | I don't regret my decision to follow my son's lead. I would definitely nurse through pregnancy and if my child wanted, I would continue with a tandem nursing relationship. |
| 6 | No, I'm happy with my decision. Yes I would do it again. |
| 5 | Absolutely not, no regrets whatsoever. Yes, I would do it again. |
| 4 | I don't regret my decision, but I hope to not do it again.
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| 3 | No, most definitely would do it again. |
| 2 | Absolutely not!!!!! Most definitely would do it again. |
| 1 | No, I do not regret my decision. I would do it again in a heartbeat. |
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