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Baby Tantrums
By Elizabeth Pantley, Author of Gentle Baby
Care
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A baby’s first tantrum can take you by surprise. Your
baby can really shock you by shrieking, stamping, hitting,
or making his whole body go stiff. But don’t take it
personally; baby tantrums aren’t about anything you’ve
done wrong, and they aren’t really about temper,
either – your baby isn’t old enough for that.
The ways you’ll respond to your baby’s behavior
when he is older are different than how you should respond
now.
Why babies have tantrums and what you can do about it
A baby tantrum is an abrupt and sudden loss of emotional
control. Various factors bring tantrums on, and if you can
identify the trigger, then you can help him calm down —
and perhaps even avoid the tantrum in the first place. Here
are the common reasons and ways to solve the problem:
| Reason for tantrum |
Possible solution |
| Overtiredness |
Settle baby down to sleep; Provide quiet activity. |
| Hunger |
Give baby a snack or something to drink. |
| Frustration |
Help baby achieve his goal or remove the frustration;
Use distraction. |
| Fear/anxiety |
Hold and cuddle baby; Remove baby from difficult situation. |
| Inability to communicate |
Try to figure out what he wants; Calmly encourage him
to show you. |
| Resisting change |
Allow a few minutes for baby to make adjustment. |
| Over stimulation |
Move baby to a quiet place. |
How to prevent baby tantrums
Often, you can prevent a baby from losing control of his
emotions if you prevent the situations that lead up to this.
Here are some things to keep in mind:
- When baby is tired, put him down for a nap or to sleep.
- Feed your baby frequently. Babies have small tummies and
need regular nourishment.
- Give your baby toys that are geared to his age and ability
level.
- Warn your baby before changing activities (“One
more swing, then we’re going home”).
- Be patient when putting your baby in an unfamiliar environment
or when introducing him to new people.
- Help your baby learn new skills (such as climbing stairs
or working puzzles).
- Keep your expectations realistic; don’t expect more
than your baby is capable of.
- As much as possible, keep a regular and predictable schedule.
- When your baby is overly emotional, keep yourself as calm
as possible.
- Use a soothing tone of voice and gentle touch to help
your baby calm down. He can’t do it on his own, he
needs your help.
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Excerpted with permission from:
Gentle Baby Care: No-cry, No-fuss,
No-worry -- Essential Tips for Raising Your Baby
by Elizabeth Pantley
McGraw-Hill/Contemporary Books, 2003
ISBN: 0071398856
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03/03/2005
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