Many tandem nursing mothers say that “reduced sibling rivalry” is one of the biggest advantages of tandem nursing. Some nurslings hold hands while they nurse and prefer to nurse together. But it is important to bear in mind that some emotional upheaval is natural when a toddler is getting used to a new baby in the house. You may find that some negativity arises between you and your older nursling (for instance, howling if you say “not right now” or “okay that’s enough for now”) or between the nurslings (such as kicking). Having realistic expectations can help you take these ups and downs in stride.