Our sponsor for the month is Earth Mama®…
At Earth Mama we get to see the joyful side of pregnancy, but we also deal with all of the real issues, from the physical discomfort of morning sickness, anxiety, and hemorrhoids to the heartbreaking pain of baby loss. Earth Mama’s sister site, Healing Hearts Baby Loss Comfort, was created in response to the reality that some pregnancies do not end happily. We wanted to offer a place for women to feel comfortable looking for real, physical comfort, herbal remedies and spiritual nurturing, as well as a space to find resources, honor their grief and express their loss.
We also wanted to create a place for those looking to support someone who has lost a baby. It can be so difficult to know what to do or say when a baby dies. So many people are touched by miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death (death in the first 28 days of life), but we struggle to have solid, reliable ways of dealing with grief. The Healing Hearts Baby Loss Comfort website has suggestions about what to do and say, and ideas to comfort and support grief and healing. Grieving parents may choose to leave a personal message, poem or tribute to their baby on the Remembering Baby page. The Grief Resources page includes links to supportive sites and articles. “What Do I Say?” is a good place to start if you are a concerned person who is feeling at a loss.
In addition and as a supplement to the web site, we also created a supportive Facebook community for people suffering from loss. Overseen by Peggy O’Mara, journalistic thought leader and founding Mothering Magazine editor, the Healing Hearts Baby Loss Comfort Facebook community is an active place for women to seek and offer support.
Women who have suffered the loss of a baby are postpartum mothers too. Miscarriage, stillbirth, and neonatal death leave women requiring not just emotional but also physical support. The Healing Hearts line was created to help comfort the specific physical postpartum needs of baby loss, as well as the aching hearts of grieving mamas. For physical and spiritual relief, Earth Mama’s Healing Hearts Comfort Gifts include a tea to ease engorged breasts, a spirit-soothing spray, a meditation candle, and seeds to sow and nurture.
It’s hard to know what to say to a grieving parent. Our own fear of loss can render us immobile. And sometimes people feel like they have to think of the “perfect” thing to say. There is no “perfect” thing to say. There is nothing you can say to heal the grief of losing a child. But acknowledging and supporting grief is a way to help healing. Please know that the effort of talking about the baby, the loss, and the sadness will be appreciated, even if it’s not “perfect.” Simply allowing a safe space for them to grieve without denying that grief is all that’s required of you. Remember, it is usually the simple things you say or do that mean so much.